My Top Recommendations for Getting Out of a Funk
Just the same way you take care of your physical health when you find a bruise or have a sore throat, you should be able to recognize when something is wrong with your mental health.
Sometimes we can be going through something that we don’t realize is taking an absolute toll on our mental health and our spiritual energy. For some it might be a break-up, for others it might be a dissatisfaction in their work/university situation. There are a wide range of reasons why we might be feeling stuck or incomplete, and these reasons obviously vary from person to person.It is also common to have bursts of happiness/satisfaction, followed by bursts of feeling lost, incomplete, or even stuck.
The truth it, most of us can really relate to the experience of being or feeling “off track” with life in general. Sometimes we don’t know why, but we still feel ‘off’. Nonetheless, finding a solution to whatever is bothering you is super important because if you don’t, the negative energy will continue to build up in your body, and well, everyone has a breaking point. Treating mental ailments the same way as physical ailments is a necessity if you want to live a well-rounded life.
I always recommend seeing a professional such as a psychologist or counselor, especially when you can’t find a reason to why you’ve been feeling so off and it’s beginning to affect your daily life. But I can acknowledge that some people aren’t ready to tackle any problems head on with a professional, so I wanted to create this article to help guide you through some self-reflective investigation.
*It is SO important that you understand that for any issues which are causing significant distress, self-reflection and self-help may not be enough. I highly encourage seeking outside help if this is the case.
Take control of your mental health and inspo!
Being able to help yourself in times of discomfort is great skill to have, and is often what psychologists help their clients achieve through their sessions. Even if you find that self-help doesn’t work for you, the self-reflective investigation process can still give you clarity over what issues you need to tackle once you do see a professional!
When I’m in a bit of a funk, I find that I really need some strict me-time in order to help myself. Read on if you want to learn how I get myself feeling super inspired, motivated, and back on track to happy-me!
is the best thing ever invented, honestly! Over the years, I have sourced my favorite bloggers (in this case, vloggers) who really help get me in my good-spirits. Some of my favorites are Mimi Ikonn, Rachelleea, and Erin May Henry (The May Collective) (just to mention a few – trust me, that list isn’t exhaustive). I generally watch YouTubers whose channels focus on lifestyle and productivity because these are topics that interest me and make me genuinely excited about life! In the past when I’ve felt like all I wanted to do was sit at home and do nothing, I watched a K-Mart decor video from Rachelleea and what do you know, I was at K-Mart 30 minutes later, shopping! Another thing YouTube is fantastic for is TED talks. All you need to do is type in “Inspirational TED talk” in the YouTube search bar, and a bunch of
videos will come up. I’ll be honest, there have been days where I’ve watched 10 different TED talks in a row with an effort to bring my inspiration level up, and let me assure you, it works like a charm! TED talks often bring science and practicality together, offering you quality-assured life-hacks.
is another thing I love. Lots of people say Netflix is a total time waster, and it can be if you let it. However, if you watch a movie or a show that has the ability to lift your spirits, then I don’t see anything wrong with it. Throughout my undergraduate degree, there were heaps of times where I lacked motivation to start my major assignments. I remember once when I felt really stuck and didn’t want to do my assignments because I was unsure of what I wanted in life, well, I opted to re-watching Legally Blonde one fine evening – um, best decision ever! After watching that, I felt like I could take on the world, and I also gained some #girlboss inspiration where I reassured myself that I was on the right track!
Hail to the graces for this amazing app! While I adore hard-copy books and often prefer to physically read the book, this isn’t always possible. Being a university student doesn’t give you much motivation to sit down and read a book especially when you have loads of coursework material that you are required to read. Audible is great because you can read (I mean listen to) great self-help books while you drive, catch the train/bus, or wait for your food or coffee to be ready! You can listen to your book at any moment you please, really. And that is what’s great! Audible offers the chance to listen to some great self-help books which can really help you get out of your funk. I love multitasking when it’s appropriate, and for me, listening to a book while I drive trumps listening to the radio! One of my all-time favorite books that I have listened to (and one that I highly recommend for people who feel a bit stuck, sad, or uninspired) is The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship. Another way to get some inspirational, audio-goodness is through Podcasts – one of my favorite podcasts to is Making the Entrepreneur because it seems like my favorite entrepreneurs are always being interviewed, and listening to successful people talk really inspires me. If you have an iPhone, the Podcasts app is usually automatically installed, it just needs an internet connection.
There is something about getting into a pool of steamy hot water and just reflecting on all things LIFE. Whenever I’ve gone through a bad-mood/uninspired/stuck period, I’ve tried to go to one of my favorite places on earth: Peninsula Hot Springs. I love the hot springs because it’s a place where you can unwind and really relax your mind and your body. Sometimes you just need to take a break from the real world and treat yourself into some heavy relaxation. Each time, I come back SUPER inspired! Obviously you don’t need to jsut go to the hot springs, but find a magical spa resort near you and check it out! You won’t be sorry.
Fine-tune your body
I have recently (for the past year or so) have become obsessed with acupuncture. Separate to the many health benefits that come along with this practice, acupuncture allows you to relax and truly meditate as the process fine-tunes your body. It is truly amazing: each meridian in our body specifically relates to a certain body-part, function, or emotion, and once that meridian is stimulated by a thin needle (literally the size of a hair so no, it does not hurt), you really begin to reap the benefits. I’m not the best person to explain
acupuncture, but I’ve tried it and loved it.
I ensure that I get acupuncture done at least once per month to help me relax. It helps knowing that for a whole 45 minutes each month you get to bring your body, spirit, and mind back into harmony just with a few needles!
If watching (or listening to) some inspirational speakers wasn’t successful at re-invigorating your motivation, then you might need to go deeper. When you’re trying to gain some clarity over why you are feeling ‘dull’, or ‘stuck’, you can start by asking yourself these three questions:
Is my past still affecting me?
Often, our negative past experiences haven’t been resolved and they can undermine our sense of fulfillment even though the experience may not actually be in our conscious awareness. Some events may have resulted in you experiencing things like a lack of security, fear of rejection, emotional abandonment, and much more, leading to a heightened sense of vulnerability. Now, I know this seems really negative and all. But it’s super important to recognize any issues that are still lingering for the exact reason that they may be why you are feeling so stuck.
Give your wounds some attention – what do they need?
Do I have any coping mechanisms in place?
Let’s say you have an argument with your partner and you lash out in such a way where the relationship may be standing on a single thread, even though the argument was about something small and insignificant. In this instance, your realize that you are reacting in a way that isn’t in line with the situation. It might even seem like one of those moments where an outsider would say “well, that escalated quickly!”
I would encourage you to take a careful look at your behavior. Sometimes it can help to break things down.
(a) When did I start to feel this way? Think really hard about a time when you felt lively, and then when there was a sudden shift in your energy. You can usually pinpoint this to a certain event that will help you better understand the root of your issue.
(b) Since that event, think about any other events where you started reacting in ways which are typically unlike yourself. Note them down.
(c) Now, analyze your behavior in those events. Do you find that you have been pushing people away without reason? Perhaps you have found that you’ve gone from 0 to 100 really quickly, and without great reason.
Start to self-reflect by becoming familiar with how you have coped with difficult situations in the past. If these coping strategies no longer serve you it is time to consider alternatives. If that is the case, begin to think about who you want to be as a person. If you want to be someone who reacts calmly to situations which are threatening, then think about how you can do just that!
Brainstorm ways you can tackle difficult situations with calm, and make a promise to yourself to implement this new behavior each time a difficult situation arises. Once it does (and you react in a way which is calm), you will feel like you’ve achieved something great!
Do I feel connected to and supported by others?
Ultimately, we need each other. Humans are social creatures and absolutely thrive off of each other’s love and support. Validation, empathy, and connection to individuals whom are important to us are absolutely powerful life forces. Reaching out to those you know, or making an effort to create new relationships, may be all you need to re-spark your inspiration and consequently help get you out of that funk! But remember, this is only possible if you make yourself available!
If you feel like you are lacking support and a sense of connectedness from those of whom you usually are close with, then perhaps it is time to reach out to them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with organizing a catch-up and simply saying “I really would like to make a conscious effort to see you more often! I’m feeling a bit ‘blah’ at the moment, so I just wanted to let you know that coming out with you has made me feel LOADS better!”
I hope these tips have given you some ideas on how you can get out of a funk, as well as provide you with some inspiration and motivation, #girlboss style! Until next time lovely people!